Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. – Robert Frost
What does that mean?
Well, irresistible is defined as “Impossible to resist.” or “Having an overpowering appeal” and desire is defined as “A wish or longing.”, “The object of longing” and “Passion or appetite.”
That about covers it, doesn’t it? “Love is the overpowering appeal and longing to be impossible to resist by the object of your longing.” And, when stated that way, it seems a little clearer, or at least it does to me.
When you look at it, isn’t that what love, the raw emotion, boils down to? You and the other person, both succumbing to the appeal and longing of being impossible to resist to the other person?
As one might expect from one so experienced with words, the phrase is rather well crafted. It twists back on itself, alternating between the different definitions of the words. Therein lies the beauty of the phrase, in my opinion. It’s short, it’s clever, and it is accurate. Well played.
Why is being irresistibly desired important?
Can you imagine living a life where no one cared about you, no one considered you desirable? Yes, there may be times when you want less desire from others, but rarely if ever does anyone want absolutely no desire from no other person on the planet.
And this desire is one of the reasons we have pets. Cats less so than dogs, but still, coming home and having someone be so happy to see you brings up tremendous feelings of love in our hearts. Even songbirds can make us believe they sing for us, and that can bring happiness as well.
Even in superficial cases of love, the start is the desire to be irresistible, and the results of such irresistibility. It’s part of why we dress up and spend time to look a specific way at specific times. Other times, it’s our minds or our with that we use to try to be irresistible.
Where can I apply this in my life?
A great deal of our time and effort is spent pursuing this goal, whether overtly or subconsciously. Even at work, we try to be known for what we can do, and doing it very well. Whether it’s a physical task, your problem solving ability or some other talent, you want to be the one they just cannot live without. That is doubly true in a down economy.
Obviously, with this quote being about the definition of love, the application of the quote is mostly about romantic love. However, how many people “love” a style of clothing, or “love” a certain type of music? If you ask yourself why, the answer is pretty much because you find it desirable, right?
Now, if we go back to business, desirability is very big business. From fashion to cosmetics, shaving equipment to jeans, and of course, the fragrance market. Look at the commercials and ask yourself “are selling their product, or are they promising you irresistibility if you only buy from them?” I think you know the answer to the question, right?
Personally, I find natural people preferable, whether it’s in their clothes or makeup, their personality or likes, I prefer the real person. While others may enjoy the game of dress-up, or other games played in the realm of dating or meeting people, I’d rather talk to people who are comfortable being themselves.
The big question, of course, is what do you prefer? Do you enjoy the time and effort of getting ready? Do you enjoy dressing up, and the thrill of being someone just a little bit different for an evening? Then go for it, and enjoy the occasional evening of irresistibility.
However, the trap of such behavior is the kind of people you meet. If you’re going to pretend to be someone just a little different, how many of the other people there are doing the same? If all you are looking for is a pleasant evening, then you’ve hit on the perfect recipe.
If, however, you’re looking for something a little more durable, that might not be the place to look. The people may seem like your type on the dance floor, but what about later? Are they still interesting, or has the shiny worn off by the light of day?
In the end, it’s up to you. If you use a lot of phony to catch someone’s eye, how much more phony will you need to use to remain irresistible and desirable to them? That is part of why I prefer to just be myself. I’m also a bit old to be on the club scene, so your desires (and results) are likely quite different from mine.
There really isn’t anything like it, is there? To feel desirable, and to be irresistibly drawn to another? I don’t know how it happens, but when it does, it’s quite a thrill. If I have any advice, it would be to enjoy yourself, and be as natural as you can, and remember not everyone is who they appear to be!
From: Twitter, @Quotes_on_Love
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