Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears. – Marcus Aurelius
What does that mean?
This quote is classic Stoic (as one might expect). It urges us to reject your sense of injury. This, in turn, causes the injury itself to disappear. That might not make as much sense when considering physical injuries, but is spot on with injuries to the ego, the sensibilities or to the psyche.
It is easy to become incensed when insulted, but if you reject the insult, the sting of it immediately dissipates. If you were called a “scruffy-looking Nerf herder,” how much would it sting? It wouldn’t, mostly be because there is no such thing, so it has no bite. What if you treated all insults in this manner?
Why is peace of mind important?
Peace of mind is when you are calm, tranquil, and nothing in the outside world can bother you. Even inside yourself, things are quiet and in harmony. Sounds great, but can it be done in today’s hectic world?
It can be done, or at least I have managed to do it. I think you can as well. It may only be for a few moments, scattered through a busy week, but with practice, it might even become your default state. One has to have goals, right?
Achieving peace of mind brings a great feeling of joy and certainty of purpose. It helps by providing clarity of thought and inner calm. Is this something you might find helpful? I believe it is tremendously useful, and a worthy goal, even if you don’t get there any time soon.
Where can I apply this in my life?
We visited insults briefly in the first section of this post. I want to make this point again, as I believe it is that important. If you can ignore their ignorant comment, the insult, and continue on with your life, you have rejected their attempt to injure you, and you are therefore uninjured. It isn’t easy, it may burn a little inside, but I believe the effort is worth it.
The kind of people who go around insulting people are generally looking to provoke a reaction, looking to injure you, and looking for you to react as if you were injured. Have you noticed that they tend to laugh at you if you try to insult them back? They have already learned this lesson. Now it is your turn to put it into practice.
How much more pleasant do you think your life would be if you could just ignore those idiots? Why do you allow them the power to disrupt your life, and to make you angry, mad, or whatever your reaction happens to be? I personally refuse to allow them to have that power over me. Sometimes they attempt to escalate, but most just walk away, frustrated.
For something more significant than a random stranger with an attitude, it is the same basic thing. If someone is saying something untrue about you at work, call them on it, set the record straight and go on with your life. The world is full of idiots, and it’s nice when they identify themselves. It makes them easier to deal with in the future.
Just put the event behind you. Often, the whole point of the lie is to get under your skin, to mess with your head. If you let that happen, they have won and you have lost. If you correct the lie, and go about your life as if nothing was wrong, they have lost. Not only have you won the skirmish, you have also retained your peace of mind, and that is the true prize.
I have had cases involving physical altercations, and been able to brush them off. Yeah, a black eye or a split lip can be hard to ignore, but by walking away from a rematch, by forgiving them and getting on with your life, you retain your peace of mind.
It’s easier to do if it was a friend than someone you hate, but it still needs to be done, or you lose your peace of mind. You end up scheming on how to get even, how to pay them back, or how to get one up on them. What an incredible waste of energy, both physical and mental, and what a waste of time. Is that the best way for you to spend your time and effort?
Be strong, be level headed, and move on. Forgive and forget. Refuse to join them in their petty games. Protect your most valuable assets, your attitude and your peace of mind. They cannot take either from you, you have to agree to give them up. Consider your actions carefully.
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